"Come dance with me" I said.
He wouldn't. So I
danced by myself. It was at a live band at a biker bar and the lead singer was a co-worker of H-er's
friend. I don't usually go to biker
bars. It's not my scene. But we'd been invited as a couple so there I
was.
But he was bored and wanted to leave. So I danced my last dance and headed to the
car and my anger built. "I'm not
free". I thought
***************
I love dancing.
Whether it's jumping up and down, ballroom, swing, country, top forty, I
love it.
I never missed a stake dance growing up. When I was about 15 I was at a stake dance
and the DJ jumped down and asked me to dance.
He was a student at BYU and was learning ballroom dance and for some
reason he picked me to spend the songs teaching the cha cha and west coast
swing. He told me I was good.
Later that summer I participated in the dance scene of
the pageant Independence 1833. Guess who my dance partner was. The DJ. I don't think he recognized me, but
again he didn't have any complaints about me as a dance partner.
Freshman year at BYU I was at every dance. I loved being
swallowed up in the throng of people dancing.
I didn't necessarily need a partner.
I just loved dancing until my feet hurt.
Fast forward to my second year at BYU. My roommate
J was a ballroom dance major. She
would teach me the different dances and took me out country dancing with her
brother. I had so much fun. For family home evening we had a country dance lesson
from some of the BYU ballroom dancers. One of them was probably 6'5 and
strong. So I let him lift me up in the
air and flip me over before catching me.
I went to one of the ballroom dance competitions with
J and imagine my surprise when I saw the DJ on the BYU Ballroom Dance
team (the team who has taken 1st place EVERY FREAKING YEAR). He didn't see me of
course but I remembered that he thought I was good-particularly following a
lead.
H-er and I hadn't been married very long when we went to
a dance at BYU that was held in a barn.
He was excited because he'd dated a girl who taught him a few
moves. It didn't go well. Within minutes he told me I was a terrible
dancer.
When I went to Puerto Vallarta with the ladies of my 12
step group we went to dinner one night and the band that serenaded our table
invited us to a dance club. We went and
sat nervously at a table. Eventually I was asked to dance. I was good enough that he asked me again and
then kept asking me and teaching me. At
one point he tried to get me to loosen up a little and I laughingly told him
that I didn't know how.
One of the ladies with us was triggered by my dancing
with him which I thought was so odd because my intentions were just to have fun
dancing. It wasn't a sexual thing at all for me. I was sad that I couldn't
dance at home like that -- all joy and no sexual overtones.
************
This is who I had become though. Walls up against
everything. Feelings bundled up and
carefully contained. In all aspects of
my life. It took dancing for a moment
like the old days--uninhibited, carefree, innocent, joyful, free--to remind me
what was missing.
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