It's been a while since I've had a nightmare like
that.
I used to have them all the time. H-er would be in a car accident and be
paralyzed and I'd find out he was in another relationship. There would be a power struggle between me and
the other woman. Who would get to take
care of him? Who would he choose? The emotion was always real even if the dream
wasn't.
I hated the ones where I was helpless. Where I would try to hit my attacker or H-er
and I just couldn't get any power behind my punches. I'd put every ounce of concentration and
effort into a punch it would be as if my arm was made of a feather. How can a feather pack a punch? How can I defend myself? How can I make him feel my pain? I can't.
I hate the terror.
Where I am frozen in fear and if I could just scream I could move. The scream would break my paralysis and I
would be able to wake up. It's as if I
am aware that I am asleep and if I could just bring myself to full
consciousness then I would be safe. So I
gather all my energy and prepare to release an ear piercing shriek. It is an entire body effort and I break into
wakefulness with the merest moan. So
much for the banshee wail...
Last night I experienced the helplessness. In my dream I wanted to order shots of
alcohol. But the bartender kept messing up my order (too few, wrong sizes,
wrong alcohol). I didn't even know if my
guests were still at the table. I'd been
gone for an hour trying to get drinks.
My frustration and frantic helplessness grew. In a final act of desperation
I tried to grab the tequila to just do it myself and the waiter ended up
pouring it all down the front of me. In
the end I failed.
As I drove home in despair I was pulled over and forced
to do a field sobriety test (passed) and breathalyzer (passed) but before I
could be vindicated the building behind me blew up. Of course the officer released me because the
building took precedence.
The knock on my door reveals the same officer coming to tell
me that my husband is deceased. He'd
blown up in the building. The
coincidence dawned on the officer and like a fool the first words out of my
mouth are "did you identify the woman he was with". Of course the
officer never said there were any other victims. Only a guilty person or person involved would
know he'd been with someone else and that it had been a woman. (It was
J-his current mistress). Any explanation that he was a
chronic cheater only confirms my motive.
I don't know why I had a nightmare like this after so
long.
I do know that I feel a bit of a power struggle with
J. I make certain posts public so
that even though we aren't friends she can see them. And she periodically posts a different
picture of H-er and her together with arms around each other. It's public so I can see. I want her to see pictures of me and feel
insecure. I want her to compare and feel
less intelligent, less successful, older, fatter, uglier, less interesting,
less serene.
Because then I feel less helpless?
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